"Do not expect too much of marriage, or too little. Water cannot rise above its own level. Your union cannot produce more than you two contribute to it. If you are full of imperfections.. do not imagine.. that by changing your partner a new union will be more successful. Marriage, like all our other relationships in life.. serves to grind the sharp edges off us.. The grinding often hurts, the adjustment to another person's character is difficult at first, that is why love is needed here more than in any other relationship.. To the influence of love.. is gradually added another powerful catalyst: habit.. if love is allowed to fail, habit itself may be strong enough to preserve the union." (Shoghi Effendi)
(77:4)
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